The Question of the Day

Over the last couple of days I have been having the debate that always comes up when you talk about relationships with men and women. Can they be friends? I have the debate many times with many different people. And I'm sure I'm not the only one, it seems to be an issue that seems ingrained in our culture. After all we've had so many movies that dealt with the issue. The most famous one is of course When Harry Met Sally, and more recently there was the movie Just Friends. It's definetly one of those debates that's divided down the sexes. Almost any man I have the discussion with always tells me no, there's always the temptation. In fact, there's only one guy friend that I've had this discussion with and agreed with me.

Though both of those movies don't really prove my point that men and women can be friends. But it does prove my point in a similar yet different argument. Most guys, and yes I have had this debate with a number of my guy friends, have this notion that once you're friends that's it. I don't know what it is with dudes, they think there's this "friend zone". Which to me seems crazy to me, both of my longest relationships were with guys I considered friends before I dated them. And I'm sure I'm not the only chick on the planet that this happened with. Actually I think it's the best way to start a relationship. After all you already know each other, and that first date akwardness is significantly decreased. Maybe it's just me because I was always so awkward when it came to dating. I'm just more comfortable hanging with a guy that already knows exactly how to make laugh. It doesn't feel like the first date, because I'm usually not comfortable laughing a lot on a first date. I've always been embarassed by the fact that sometimes when I laugh really hard it sounds like a snort. There's that akward teenager thing again. Oh and like you probably can tell from reading my blogs I ramble a lot. So it's another thing that makes nervous on a first date, that I'm so self-conscious about starting to ramble. Needless to say if I'm on date with someone that I'm already friends with, I don't have to worry about trying not to do any of these things, and probably some others too. Well, because they are already aware of them, so I can comfortable being myself. And the same is probably true for them too.