Critical Misjudgments...

During my life, so far, there have been several times where I have been misjudged. I think that everyone gets misjudged at least several times over the course of their lifetimes. Unfortanetly it's well just par for the course. I could sit here and cite examples in my life, but that just seems like a bitter thing to do. Besides I'm not really sure that's the point of this post, though come to think of it do I ever know what the point of my posts are. I guess, it's just that it's a little frustrating when people misjudge you, and think you are something that you are not. In some ways how could it not be?

I didn't really want to cite an example, but I'm not really sure how to make my point without doing it. The other day I was talking on the phone with a guy I recently when on a date with. This guy has some issues with relationships he's dealing with because he obsessed with talking with past relationships. And he happened to mention that I must have more baggage than Paris Hilton, because I had a seven year relationship. Of course I commented, "What do you mean, she's a skank." And then asked him what kinda baggage did I have, of course I was curious. I know, I know it's what killed the cat. To be honest I'm not sure whether to amused or angry at his response. He told me that after having that long a relationship that ended I'm probably one those women that needs to have a man around all the time. Needless to say I found that more than a little disturbing, because that's the furthest thing from the truth. And I was a little bewildered that he thought was possible, after all last Saturday we spent about five hours together on a date. I couldn't figure out what I said or did on this date to give this impression. Or could just be that he couldn't be bothered to pay attention on the date. But I just think he's just got so many issues from his ex-girlfriend that he thinks in his mind that all women are like that.

I know that was a long example, but I think it proved my point of how easy it can be to misinterpret someone. Hey I've done myself, I'm not blaming anyone. But it does show the value of communication especially when you don't know someone to well. If you don't listen closely you could misinterpret something they say or do and completely misinterpret them. In some circumstances they can really end up resenting for it, even though you really didn't mean any harm.