Disclaimer: Just from the start, no this blog doesn't have seventies references, actually it's a song dumbass. I've always liked the song for some reason. I don't know why, I never could see myself crawling across the floor for anyone. And I really have no desire for anyone to act that way for me. So I have no clue why I've always liked the song so much.
Hmmm I guess the blog should have some sort of point other than me rambling on about Clapton songs. Actually it's technically Derick and the Dominos, which Clapton was a major influence on, but whatever. I keep forgetting who the other dudes in the band were, but I'm really majorly digressing now. Well not really considering that I haven't really come up with topic yet. I guess it's kinda like a Seinfeld episode it kinda has no point mind, things just kinda happen. I think that was what was so funny about the show. I never got how the dudes on that show got so many women. Or even how Elaine got so many men. I'm sorry but those characters had so many warped ideas about relationships. They would break up with people over the most trival things. I remember the episode where Jerry dumped a woman because her hands were too big. I think though one of the funniest things was when Jerry had a woman that only looked good in the back booth in the coffeeshop.
I guess what is scary is how close it is to reality. Of all the shows that show people that live in New York and how they live I think it'ts the closest to how life in New York really is. I mean Sex in the City is just so unrealistic, I don't know anyone who lives a lifestyle like that in New York. Friends was a little more realistic, at least about the social lives and the interpersonal relationships to a certain extent, but I still think Sex and the City is somewhat accurate. What is so unrealistic about Friends is that there's no way a New Yorker that's working in a coffeehouse would be able to afford that apartment or even get one that big. They would be living in a place the size of a shoebox. And as scary as this sounds Seinfeld is pretty accurate as to how New Yorkers handle dating. Let's face we do come up with some petty reasons why we don't want to date people. Maybe it's just our way of making excuses for the fact that we are really not them into them.
January 30, 2007
January 29, 2007
Whole Lotta Love
Disclaimer: If you've been reading my blogs you've probably seen my ideal man list before, but this time I've decided to put them in order of importance. I'll probably add a few along the way. I know the list is long, but like I've said I know what I want and I've done the opposites attract thing and now it's time for the similarities last thing. Though I must admit I'm not opposed to some flings with opposites along the way for my quest for a similarity lasts dude. As far what the title means it's a clue to one of the references on my list. Hey it's a long list I figured I'd give a freebie. If you don't get it, just give up now. You'd probably not pass the first or second date BackFence Test. And no it's not sex reference, it's my favorite bar in the village. If a man can't survive 2 or 3 hours in the back fence he'll never survive a relationship with me.
here we go... The first few are pretty obvious standards it may get more complicated after that.
1. Honest - We'll Duh if he not honest why would I want a relationship with him. I don't want to date a pathological liar thank you very much.
2. Sincere - This goes hand and hand with the honest thing. I think it's pretty self-explanatory
3. Trustworthy - If he's not someone that I trust to tell all my deepest darkest secrets to (not that I have that many. Let's face it I'm not too good at keeping things to myself. My biggest problem is that I have no shame. I tell everyone everything)
4. Loyal - It's important that the person that I'm with is there for the good times and the bad.
5. Faithful - Well I think this one is pretty obvious nobody wants to date a cheater.
6. GETS ME - I guess what that means is a strong connection. You know one of those couples that can communicate without talking, you know can exchange a conversation with a few glances. I've always wanted to have a relationship with that type of connection with someone, and never have... You know chemistry, I think it's one of the most important parts of a relationship. Without it a relationship is doomed from start.
7. Down To Earth - I may joke that I'm named after a Princess, but I must be honest I'm probably about as far from a Princess you can get. It's kinda ironic that I joke around about that because Prissy Princesses made my elementary school experiences horrid. In the second grade, I used to jump rope with the geeky boys that got picked last in sports. Therefore, I don't want to date a princess. Any dude I date must be cool with hanging out in a dive bar with peanuts on the floor and shooting a few rounds pool wearing jeans and sneakers. Actually usually I'll throw on a pair of heels.
8. Upbeat - He must have a positive attitude and a high level of energy.
9. Self-respect - I've learned how important it is to be treated with respect in a relationship, and expect whoever I with to understand that too. I don't want to be with a doormat.
10. Self-Confidence - Read not cocky. He should be comfortable enough to approach me. I'm not that hard to talk to. See above: Down to earth.
11. Believes in the importance of Freedom both personal and financial. They are two of my biggest goals in life. Anyone that I would have a significant relationship with would have those goals too.
12. Knows the importance of self-development. You are never gonna get anywhere in life if you are not constantly growing mentally and emotionally.
13. Dreams Big- He must be ambitious and have definite goals. He must have lofty dreams like me. If you can't be able to dream what do you have to live for.
14. Comfortable with himself - A guy should be comfortable with himself. I don't want to be with someone who wants to pretend to be someone else. It's one thing for a man to have all the qualities on this list, but another for him to use them. I'm mature enough to look behind the outside on a guy and see the man on the inside, but it's not do me or him any good if he cannot see it himself. This for those nice guys that pretend they are assholes, because they think that's what all women want. Sorry but only immature girls that want assholes, real women have enough self-respect to wait for a nice guy.
15. Funny - He should have a good sense of humor, and how to make me laugh. And appreciate my corny jokes and wacky sense of humor.
16. Has a high level of energy - I'm like the energizer bunny, so anyone I date should be able to keep up with me.
17.Intelligent not an intellectual snob - Brains are important but they are not everything you shouldn't look down on other people. There's nothing worse than someone who belittles someone else.
18. Talkative - I understand guys like to chill in front of the tube and watch ESPN, when they first come home. But I love to run my mouth and I need to be with someone that will put up with it.
19. Able to Express Emotions - It's important in relationship for the person to be express how they feel. Just like a man is not a mind reader neither is a woman.
20. Mature Enough Not to Play Head Games - It doesn't have to do with age it's maturity. I'm tired of 31 year old men who act like they are 13. I know 19 year old dudes who act more mature. 'Nough Said, I'm not gonna write a lecture here.
21. Flexible - For any long term relationship to work it's important for both people to compromise. If not the relationship just won't work.
22.Understands that a Real Man doesn't have to be a Macho Man- This is probably pretty self-explanatory. A real man doesn't always have to prove his masculinity every minute of the day. And by the way it's alright to cry every once in awhile, unlike common belief it doesn't make you less of man. In fact if guy isn't secure enough to have his woman see him cry he's not a real man.
23. A little bit goofy - This relates to the similarities last thing, of all the Disney Characters I relate best to Goofy. Lets face I'm a klutz. I am the chick who tripped over her own foot playing kickball in fourth grade and knocked out a tooth. And besides there are some pretty stupid things that come out of my mouth.
24. Romantic - Do I really need to explain? Just in case. A man should understand the value of romance in a relationship. And I don't mean buying overpriced roses. I mean the little gestures like remembering the little things like surprising me with one of my many favorite sweet treats, or a foot massages.
25. Knows how to find my warm fuzzy side - I guess this is a continuation of the last one. He'll have to go through layers of ice, regrettably. Yes there is a very warm fuzzy hopeless romantic in here. Yeah I hate to admit but I'm a closet hopeless romantic. Please don't tell anyone, I have a reputation to protect.
26. He's not an asshole - Here's that hopeless romantic side of me again. I believe that there's still a nice guy out there for me. Maybe I've seen too many cheesy romance movies but I still have hope that the nice guy/girl doesn't always have to finish last.
27. Likes to be spoiled and spoils more in return - And talking about the little things like back rubs and making their favorite meal. Many people forget that the little things add up, I don't and I can't be with someone that doesn't feel the same way.
27. Has a sweet tooth - I have a mouth full of them, he should have a few too. Besides he should appreciate my homemade chocolate chip cookies.
28. Willing to clean up my messes in the kitchen - (See above flour gets all over the place) BTW - I make more than just cookies, he should appreciate a woman that likes to cook.
29. Can handle my adopted brothers - I've always been able to relate more with dudes than chicks so any man I'm with will able to accept that. It does go both ways too.
30. Knows what book 42 in my id comes from - Yes I'm a geek. He should be a little geekier. Sorry I just can't be the bigger geek. It's a ego thing. Besides there is nothing sexier than a handsome geek.
31. Can put up my bad impressions and has a few himself (See the goofy thing above) 32. Understands the importance of culture. Enjoys art museums, plays and musicals, and music. I enjoy these kinds of things and it would be cool if my significant other did, too.
33. Is somewhat of history buff, we must learn from the past otherwise we are doomed to repeat it.
34. Can keep up with my drinking (and not with piss tasting beer like Coors and buds) and deal with my drunk singing. I know I saved one of the hardest ones for last.
35. Loves to travel --Both here and overseas. I've always wanted to drive cross country. Actually I'd love to just throw a couple of bags in the trunk and hit the open road with no destination in mind. To me that's just ultimate freedom. Overseas obviously the usual Europe (Italy, France, England, Scotland, Holland, yadda, yadda,yadda), Australia, New Zealand (Yes, the Lord of the Rings did inspire me to wanna go there, but who could see the scenery in that movie and not want to go there), the usual Caribbean beaches, hmmm I think I need something more exotic. I'll have to come up with something.
Now it's time for the fun part...
Don't you wish your girlfriend was hot like me
Don't you wish your girlfriend was a freak like me
Just like the other list they are in order
1. Loves to make out. I love to kiss and trust me I'm good at it. I expect anyone I'm in a relationship with to feel the same way
2. Encourages my underwear obsession. Does pick on how much I spend on them.
3. Is a Backdoor Man...Duh have you seen my ass. ( And knows which song it is a reference to and who sings it).
4. Has good hands for massages and even naughtier stuff.
5. A good tongue is even better.
6. Likes to make homemade porno. I've never made one but I've always fantasied about it.
7. Shower...You...Me...'Nough Said.
8. Can handle my frisky behavior when I drink.
9. Enjoys sex on places besides a bed and the shower, preferably in public. Nothing like the thrill of quickie when you may get caught.
10.Likes the woman to climb on top...Duh
11. One word...Blindfolds
12. Has a few cherries I can pop. You can pop some of mine too.
13. Knows exactly how to make me purr and moan.
14. Knows the best way to wake me up in the morning and oh in the middle of the night, too.
15. Loves chocolate in bed
16. Two words... Massage oil
17. Secure enough to buy his favorite lingerie in Victoria Secret or even better Frederick's of Hollywood so I can wear for him. Hell, I'll even let get away with ordering it online.
18. Believes 69 is his lucky number.
Reads this whole list and still isn't intimated by dating me. I know it's long. When can I say this time around I've decided not to settle. And my ideal man wouldn't want to settle either. Hopefully he has list just as long that I fit. Also realizes when he reads it that it's him. Oh and he also doesn't pick on my terrible spelling and grammer
here we go... The first few are pretty obvious standards it may get more complicated after that.
1. Honest - We'll Duh if he not honest why would I want a relationship with him. I don't want to date a pathological liar thank you very much.
2. Sincere - This goes hand and hand with the honest thing. I think it's pretty self-explanatory
3. Trustworthy - If he's not someone that I trust to tell all my deepest darkest secrets to (not that I have that many. Let's face it I'm not too good at keeping things to myself. My biggest problem is that I have no shame. I tell everyone everything)
4. Loyal - It's important that the person that I'm with is there for the good times and the bad.
5. Faithful - Well I think this one is pretty obvious nobody wants to date a cheater.
6. GETS ME - I guess what that means is a strong connection. You know one of those couples that can communicate without talking, you know can exchange a conversation with a few glances. I've always wanted to have a relationship with that type of connection with someone, and never have... You know chemistry, I think it's one of the most important parts of a relationship. Without it a relationship is doomed from start.
7. Down To Earth - I may joke that I'm named after a Princess, but I must be honest I'm probably about as far from a Princess you can get. It's kinda ironic that I joke around about that because Prissy Princesses made my elementary school experiences horrid. In the second grade, I used to jump rope with the geeky boys that got picked last in sports. Therefore, I don't want to date a princess. Any dude I date must be cool with hanging out in a dive bar with peanuts on the floor and shooting a few rounds pool wearing jeans and sneakers. Actually usually I'll throw on a pair of heels.
8. Upbeat - He must have a positive attitude and a high level of energy.
9. Self-respect - I've learned how important it is to be treated with respect in a relationship, and expect whoever I with to understand that too. I don't want to be with a doormat.
10. Self-Confidence - Read not cocky. He should be comfortable enough to approach me. I'm not that hard to talk to. See above: Down to earth.
11. Believes in the importance of Freedom both personal and financial. They are two of my biggest goals in life. Anyone that I would have a significant relationship with would have those goals too.
12. Knows the importance of self-development. You are never gonna get anywhere in life if you are not constantly growing mentally and emotionally.
13. Dreams Big- He must be ambitious and have definite goals. He must have lofty dreams like me. If you can't be able to dream what do you have to live for.
14. Comfortable with himself - A guy should be comfortable with himself. I don't want to be with someone who wants to pretend to be someone else. It's one thing for a man to have all the qualities on this list, but another for him to use them. I'm mature enough to look behind the outside on a guy and see the man on the inside, but it's not do me or him any good if he cannot see it himself. This for those nice guys that pretend they are assholes, because they think that's what all women want. Sorry but only immature girls that want assholes, real women have enough self-respect to wait for a nice guy.
15. Funny - He should have a good sense of humor, and how to make me laugh. And appreciate my corny jokes and wacky sense of humor.
16. Has a high level of energy - I'm like the energizer bunny, so anyone I date should be able to keep up with me.
17.Intelligent not an intellectual snob - Brains are important but they are not everything you shouldn't look down on other people. There's nothing worse than someone who belittles someone else.
18. Talkative - I understand guys like to chill in front of the tube and watch ESPN, when they first come home. But I love to run my mouth and I need to be with someone that will put up with it.
19. Able to Express Emotions - It's important in relationship for the person to be express how they feel. Just like a man is not a mind reader neither is a woman.
20. Mature Enough Not to Play Head Games - It doesn't have to do with age it's maturity. I'm tired of 31 year old men who act like they are 13. I know 19 year old dudes who act more mature. 'Nough Said, I'm not gonna write a lecture here.
21. Flexible - For any long term relationship to work it's important for both people to compromise. If not the relationship just won't work.
22.Understands that a Real Man doesn't have to be a Macho Man- This is probably pretty self-explanatory. A real man doesn't always have to prove his masculinity every minute of the day. And by the way it's alright to cry every once in awhile, unlike common belief it doesn't make you less of man. In fact if guy isn't secure enough to have his woman see him cry he's not a real man.
23. A little bit goofy - This relates to the similarities last thing, of all the Disney Characters I relate best to Goofy. Lets face I'm a klutz. I am the chick who tripped over her own foot playing kickball in fourth grade and knocked out a tooth. And besides there are some pretty stupid things that come out of my mouth.
24. Romantic - Do I really need to explain? Just in case. A man should understand the value of romance in a relationship. And I don't mean buying overpriced roses. I mean the little gestures like remembering the little things like surprising me with one of my many favorite sweet treats, or a foot massages.
25. Knows how to find my warm fuzzy side - I guess this is a continuation of the last one. He'll have to go through layers of ice, regrettably. Yes there is a very warm fuzzy hopeless romantic in here. Yeah I hate to admit but I'm a closet hopeless romantic. Please don't tell anyone, I have a reputation to protect.
26. He's not an asshole - Here's that hopeless romantic side of me again. I believe that there's still a nice guy out there for me. Maybe I've seen too many cheesy romance movies but I still have hope that the nice guy/girl doesn't always have to finish last.
27. Likes to be spoiled and spoils more in return - And talking about the little things like back rubs and making their favorite meal. Many people forget that the little things add up, I don't and I can't be with someone that doesn't feel the same way.
27. Has a sweet tooth - I have a mouth full of them, he should have a few too. Besides he should appreciate my homemade chocolate chip cookies.
28. Willing to clean up my messes in the kitchen - (See above flour gets all over the place) BTW - I make more than just cookies, he should appreciate a woman that likes to cook.
29. Can handle my adopted brothers - I've always been able to relate more with dudes than chicks so any man I'm with will able to accept that. It does go both ways too.
30. Knows what book 42 in my id comes from - Yes I'm a geek. He should be a little geekier. Sorry I just can't be the bigger geek. It's a ego thing. Besides there is nothing sexier than a handsome geek.
31. Can put up my bad impressions and has a few himself (See the goofy thing above) 32. Understands the importance of culture. Enjoys art museums, plays and musicals, and music. I enjoy these kinds of things and it would be cool if my significant other did, too.
33. Is somewhat of history buff, we must learn from the past otherwise we are doomed to repeat it.
34. Can keep up with my drinking (and not with piss tasting beer like Coors and buds) and deal with my drunk singing. I know I saved one of the hardest ones for last.
35. Loves to travel --Both here and overseas. I've always wanted to drive cross country. Actually I'd love to just throw a couple of bags in the trunk and hit the open road with no destination in mind. To me that's just ultimate freedom. Overseas obviously the usual Europe (Italy, France, England, Scotland, Holland, yadda, yadda,yadda), Australia, New Zealand (Yes, the Lord of the Rings did inspire me to wanna go there, but who could see the scenery in that movie and not want to go there), the usual Caribbean beaches, hmmm I think I need something more exotic. I'll have to come up with something.
Now it's time for the fun part...
Don't you wish your girlfriend was hot like me
Don't you wish your girlfriend was a freak like me
Just like the other list they are in order
1. Loves to make out. I love to kiss and trust me I'm good at it. I expect anyone I'm in a relationship with to feel the same way
2. Encourages my underwear obsession. Does pick on how much I spend on them.
3. Is a Backdoor Man...Duh have you seen my ass. ( And knows which song it is a reference to and who sings it).
4. Has good hands for massages and even naughtier stuff.
5. A good tongue is even better.
6. Likes to make homemade porno. I've never made one but I've always fantasied about it.
7. Shower...You...Me...'Nough Said.
8. Can handle my frisky behavior when I drink.
9. Enjoys sex on places besides a bed and the shower, preferably in public. Nothing like the thrill of quickie when you may get caught.
10.Likes the woman to climb on top...Duh
11. One word...Blindfolds
12. Has a few cherries I can pop. You can pop some of mine too.
13. Knows exactly how to make me purr and moan.
14. Knows the best way to wake me up in the morning and oh in the middle of the night, too.
15. Loves chocolate in bed
16. Two words... Massage oil
17. Secure enough to buy his favorite lingerie in Victoria Secret or even better Frederick's of Hollywood so I can wear for him. Hell, I'll even let get away with ordering it online.
18. Believes 69 is his lucky number.
Reads this whole list and still isn't intimated by dating me. I know it's long. When can I say this time around I've decided not to settle. And my ideal man wouldn't want to settle either. Hopefully he has list just as long that I fit. Also realizes when he reads it that it's him. Oh and he also doesn't pick on my terrible spelling and grammer
January 26, 2007
A Horse With No Name
Disclaimer: There is no purpose to the title, this blog has nothing to with horses. Or even the desert or rain like the song is about. In fact I don't think I've ever seen to the desert. I've seen rain, but why the hell would I want to blog about rain? I mean no offense to people that love to blog about the rain.
Now I guess I'm supposed to pick some type of topic or something, I guess. To be honest I really didn't have one in mind. It's friday afternoon, I'm bored of work, my boss has left for the day, so I figured why not write a blog. After all why not, when the cat's away don't the mice play? Hmmm I guess a lot of my blogs lately have been about dating and relationships. I guess the whole dating and relationships thing has been on my mind a lot lately. How could it not be, after all I'm finally at a point where the all the loose ends of my marriage have be tied. I know that I still have id still in the wrong name, but after all I still have things like a credit card and a cable bill that I never changed from the first time around.
The even bigger question are my emotional loose ends tied up. And let's face it that's not an easy question to answer, how do you know when you are trully ready for a new relationship. And I'm not talking about about casual dating, you know a drink, dinner, a movie here and there. Which by the way adds up and with the right person can add up and very easily become a relationship. So therefore those emotional loose ends are now an issue.
I guess the reason that I'm so obsessive over it is that there is part of me that still looks at my divorce as baggage. To be honest I don't know why I do, I know my marriage was definetly a learning experience. Let's face it I learned a lot about myself and what I want out of relationship. And it's not like I hold bad feelings towards relationships or have a hatred against men. I could never imagine switching teams, the thought of a relationship with a woman disturbs. Yes there is the equipment issue, I'm sorry lesbian sex just doesn't do anything for me. But it's more than, let's face it women can be catty bitches at times, I know I can be one from time to time. And no it doesn't correlate with my time of the month, some women just use that as an excuse to be a bitch. I may be making some enemies with this blog maybe I should get off my tagent, back to my discussion on relationships. Maybe now that I know the type of person that I want to share a relationship with (See my earlier blog. Hey advertising never hurts. And besides I couldn't beat the price, who can beat free?) maybe it's not that I'm not ready for a relationship but that I'm not ready for a relationship with just anyone. After all I already did the opposites attract thing, maybe it's time I did the similarities last thing. Maybe I don't need to find him, but just the rock that he's hiding under.
Now I guess I'm supposed to pick some type of topic or something, I guess. To be honest I really didn't have one in mind. It's friday afternoon, I'm bored of work, my boss has left for the day, so I figured why not write a blog. After all why not, when the cat's away don't the mice play? Hmmm I guess a lot of my blogs lately have been about dating and relationships. I guess the whole dating and relationships thing has been on my mind a lot lately. How could it not be, after all I'm finally at a point where the all the loose ends of my marriage have be tied. I know that I still have id still in the wrong name, but after all I still have things like a credit card and a cable bill that I never changed from the first time around.
The even bigger question are my emotional loose ends tied up. And let's face it that's not an easy question to answer, how do you know when you are trully ready for a new relationship. And I'm not talking about about casual dating, you know a drink, dinner, a movie here and there. Which by the way adds up and with the right person can add up and very easily become a relationship. So therefore those emotional loose ends are now an issue.
I guess the reason that I'm so obsessive over it is that there is part of me that still looks at my divorce as baggage. To be honest I don't know why I do, I know my marriage was definetly a learning experience. Let's face it I learned a lot about myself and what I want out of relationship. And it's not like I hold bad feelings towards relationships or have a hatred against men. I could never imagine switching teams, the thought of a relationship with a woman disturbs. Yes there is the equipment issue, I'm sorry lesbian sex just doesn't do anything for me. But it's more than, let's face it women can be catty bitches at times, I know I can be one from time to time. And no it doesn't correlate with my time of the month, some women just use that as an excuse to be a bitch. I may be making some enemies with this blog maybe I should get off my tagent, back to my discussion on relationships. Maybe now that I know the type of person that I want to share a relationship with (See my earlier blog. Hey advertising never hurts. And besides I couldn't beat the price, who can beat free?) maybe it's not that I'm not ready for a relationship but that I'm not ready for a relationship with just anyone. After all I already did the opposites attract thing, maybe it's time I did the similarities last thing. Maybe I don't need to find him, but just the rock that he's hiding under.
January 16, 2007
I Think it's Finally Time
Today for the first time I trully accepted that I'm ready to move on and start dating. Don't get me wrong I had been on a few dates over the last year. Some of them were really nice, and some of them were really horrible. I think the worst one was when the guy hit me in the head with a cue ball.
Anyway I'm digressing. For a long time I was having issues moving on because I didn't want to dump my emotional baggage on anyone else. And I know everyone has issues they have to deal with, but let's face is it really fair to subject another person to the emotional rollar coaster ride that you are taking when you are going through a divorce. How long with that relationship really last?
But now that the divorce is finalized, the apartment is my name only, all jim's crap is finally out of the apartment (it only took about a year). I made the trip down to DMV and now all I have to is wait for my new driver's license in the mail. I tried to go to the social security office first but apparently since divorce papers don't have dates of birth I need to go back with my driver's license in my maiden name. I hate bureacrats, I think that is so ridulous. So as soon as I get my driver's license in the mail I'll go down there. After that all I have to do is change my credit cards and I'll be totally done. I had no idea how freeing this whole experience has been.
For awhile i've been trying to "date" but I really don't think I was mentally allowing myself to be emotional ready. Back in the summer I went on match.com, but I've since removed myself. I went on one or two dates but it seems that site is only for perverts and psychos. Recently I joined e-harmony and they seem more normal there, and I've met one or two decent guys. But the biggest step, that made me realize I was finally ready to move on was today when I signed up for one singles happy hour parties. I had been putting it off for while. You know when you sign up for one of those meat market parties you are finally ready to move on.
Anyway I'm digressing. For a long time I was having issues moving on because I didn't want to dump my emotional baggage on anyone else. And I know everyone has issues they have to deal with, but let's face is it really fair to subject another person to the emotional rollar coaster ride that you are taking when you are going through a divorce. How long with that relationship really last?
But now that the divorce is finalized, the apartment is my name only, all jim's crap is finally out of the apartment (it only took about a year). I made the trip down to DMV and now all I have to is wait for my new driver's license in the mail. I tried to go to the social security office first but apparently since divorce papers don't have dates of birth I need to go back with my driver's license in my maiden name. I hate bureacrats, I think that is so ridulous. So as soon as I get my driver's license in the mail I'll go down there. After that all I have to do is change my credit cards and I'll be totally done. I had no idea how freeing this whole experience has been.
For awhile i've been trying to "date" but I really don't think I was mentally allowing myself to be emotional ready. Back in the summer I went on match.com, but I've since removed myself. I went on one or two dates but it seems that site is only for perverts and psychos. Recently I joined e-harmony and they seem more normal there, and I've met one or two decent guys. But the biggest step, that made me realize I was finally ready to move on was today when I signed up for one singles happy hour parties. I had been putting it off for while. You know when you sign up for one of those meat market parties you are finally ready to move on.
January 10, 2007
Here We Go Yet Again, It just keeps getting longer and longer
My Ideal Man, Revisited yet again
One of my guy friends recently made a list of his ideal women, so I decided to do the same for my ideal man. BTW - I've done the opposite attracts thing. Now it's time for the similarities last thing. I believe I have a lot of these qualities.
1. Honest 2. Sincere 3. Loyal 4. Faithful 5. Intelligent not an Intellectual snob 6. A little bit goofy 7. Funny 8. Upbeat 9. Down-to-earth 10. Has a sweet tooth. After all I have a mouth full of them, he should have a couple too. And besides he must be able to appreciate my chocolate chip cookies. 11. GETS ME 12. Able to express emotions 13. Willing to clean my messes in the kitchen. (See above, flour gets all over the place) 14. Talkative -Don't get me wrong, I understand that dudes want to come home and chill in front of the tv and stare at espn for awhile. 15. Can keep up with my drinking ( and not with bud and coors light. what's the point of drinking beer that tastes like piss.) Oh and put up with my bad singing too after I get drunk. Or even worse my sober singing. This may be the hardest one on the list I know. And also my frisky behavior after I've kicked back a few. 16. Secure enough to accept my adopted brothers. 17. Understands that a real man doesn't need to wear his machoness on his sleeve to be a real man. 18. Flexible - Is able to meet me halfway. Being able to compromise is very important. 19 Self-confident (Read: Not cocky) - He should be comfortable with himself, and enough to know how to approach me. 20. Encourages my underwear obesession, and doesn't pick on me that I spend too much on them. 21. Is a backdoor Man (duh!) Have you seen my ass. Oh and gets the reference to the song not my ass. 22. Has good hands - For massages you pervert, but for the other stuff it won't hurt either. 23. Likes to makes homemade pornos. I've never made one but I've always fantasied about it. 24. Appreciates the little things that I do. And does them himself for me. 25. Has a high level of energy. 26. Mature enough to not play headgames. 27. Romantic - I can't believe I left that one out before. 28. Fun loving but knows when it's time be serious. 29. Knows what 42 in my id references. There's nothing sexier than a handsome geek. 30. Can put up with my bad impressions and has a few himself. Maybe he might even have a few good ones. lol 31. Can pentrete my layers of ice and find my warm fuzzy patient side. Yes there is one. 32. Doesn't want a bitch and isn't an asshole. I've tried to be a bitch. It's just not in me. Therefore I want a guy who's not an asshole. And doesn't pretend to be one because he thinks it's cute. 33. We have chemistry. You know that whole movie look across the room deep looks kinda love. I know I'm a closet hopeless romantic. Please don't tell anyone. I have an image to protect. 34. Reads this whole list and still isn't intimated by dating me. I know there are 34 things on the list. When can I say this time around I've decided not to settle. And my ideal man wouldn't want to settle either. Hopefully he has list just as long that I fit. Also realizes when he reads it that it's him. Oh and he also doesn't pick on my terrible spelling and grammer.
One of my guy friends recently made a list of his ideal women, so I decided to do the same for my ideal man. BTW - I've done the opposite attracts thing. Now it's time for the similarities last thing. I believe I have a lot of these qualities.
1. Honest 2. Sincere 3. Loyal 4. Faithful 5. Intelligent not an Intellectual snob 6. A little bit goofy 7. Funny 8. Upbeat 9. Down-to-earth 10. Has a sweet tooth. After all I have a mouth full of them, he should have a couple too. And besides he must be able to appreciate my chocolate chip cookies. 11. GETS ME 12. Able to express emotions 13. Willing to clean my messes in the kitchen. (See above, flour gets all over the place) 14. Talkative -Don't get me wrong, I understand that dudes want to come home and chill in front of the tv and stare at espn for awhile. 15. Can keep up with my drinking ( and not with bud and coors light. what's the point of drinking beer that tastes like piss.) Oh and put up with my bad singing too after I get drunk. Or even worse my sober singing. This may be the hardest one on the list I know. And also my frisky behavior after I've kicked back a few. 16. Secure enough to accept my adopted brothers. 17. Understands that a real man doesn't need to wear his machoness on his sleeve to be a real man. 18. Flexible - Is able to meet me halfway. Being able to compromise is very important. 19 Self-confident (Read: Not cocky) - He should be comfortable with himself, and enough to know how to approach me. 20. Encourages my underwear obesession, and doesn't pick on me that I spend too much on them. 21. Is a backdoor Man (duh!) Have you seen my ass. Oh and gets the reference to the song not my ass. 22. Has good hands - For massages you pervert, but for the other stuff it won't hurt either. 23. Likes to makes homemade pornos. I've never made one but I've always fantasied about it. 24. Appreciates the little things that I do. And does them himself for me. 25. Has a high level of energy. 26. Mature enough to not play headgames. 27. Romantic - I can't believe I left that one out before. 28. Fun loving but knows when it's time be serious. 29. Knows what 42 in my id references. There's nothing sexier than a handsome geek. 30. Can put up with my bad impressions and has a few himself. Maybe he might even have a few good ones. lol 31. Can pentrete my layers of ice and find my warm fuzzy patient side. Yes there is one. 32. Doesn't want a bitch and isn't an asshole. I've tried to be a bitch. It's just not in me. Therefore I want a guy who's not an asshole. And doesn't pretend to be one because he thinks it's cute. 33. We have chemistry. You know that whole movie look across the room deep looks kinda love. I know I'm a closet hopeless romantic. Please don't tell anyone. I have an image to protect. 34. Reads this whole list and still isn't intimated by dating me. I know there are 34 things on the list. When can I say this time around I've decided not to settle. And my ideal man wouldn't want to settle either. Hopefully he has list just as long that I fit. Also realizes when he reads it that it's him. Oh and he also doesn't pick on my terrible spelling and grammer.
In the Blink of an Eye
Disclaimer: This blog may leave you confused if you don't know what I'm referring to. If you are confused there's a reason.
I've always believed that there are certain things that happen in your life for a reason. Not so much for the event itself, but for the domino effect it creates afterwards. Everything you do in your life effects everything that happens afterwards. We can't go back and uncreate events, we just have to roll with the punches. Sometimes these events have positive effects and sometimes they have negative effects. And sometimes when you think that something is negative event, it's actually a positive event. The reverse is true, too of course.
Recently I've been impacted by one such event. It was one that was created by another person, the domino effect does work that way too. I thought it was a negative event, but I've come to realize that it actually may be a positive event. This event has made me realize something about someone else's character, and it made me wonder if something that I wanted for myself is really a good idea at this point in my life.
I've always believed that there are certain things that happen in your life for a reason. Not so much for the event itself, but for the domino effect it creates afterwards. Everything you do in your life effects everything that happens afterwards. We can't go back and uncreate events, we just have to roll with the punches. Sometimes these events have positive effects and sometimes they have negative effects. And sometimes when you think that something is negative event, it's actually a positive event. The reverse is true, too of course.
Recently I've been impacted by one such event. It was one that was created by another person, the domino effect does work that way too. I thought it was a negative event, but I've come to realize that it actually may be a positive event. This event has made me realize something about someone else's character, and it made me wonder if something that I wanted for myself is really a good idea at this point in my life.
January 5, 2007
Silly Rabbit Trix are for kids
Disclaimer: I just liked the title and confusing people. This blog has nothing do with Trix, Rabbits and kids. I know I'm weird deal with it.
The other day I was chatting with one of my guy friends. He's really into prissy princesses, I think that's just a nice way to say bitches. What's it with guys and liking bitches, I think have to learn to become one. All my nice guy friends only seem to date bitches. I'm just starting to believe that nice girls and nice guys just can't wind up together. Maybe it's something something in the bichemistry. All my nice guy friends end up with bitches, and my nice girlfriends wind up with assholes. Maybe it's just what they attract, or maybe they just accept medicore. I refuse to, I've decided it's all or nothing baby.
Anyway, back to the point of this blog. We were talking about about Disney Princesses, and which one he would want to date. Don't look at me he started this conversation. He said Belle because she is smart, sassy but beatiful and elegant at the same time. I was actually surprised that was his selection, I would have had him pegged him as wanting a Cinderella. I can't say why he just comes off to me as the type of guy that would. Anyway then he asked which princess I thought I was. I of course said that I was not a princess but Tinkerbell. After all she's spunky, can fly, and none of the princesses can top pixy dust. And she knows exactly how to use her sexuality, she has poor Peter Pan wrapped around her pinky. My friend snorted and told me that I'm actually Prince Charming. I was baffled by this and of course asked him why. He told me I tend to go for men that need to be rescued and taken off on a white horse. He may have a point. I would be the one in a drag fairy tale. Pardon me while I go and slay some dragons and rescue Princes from evil stepmothers.
The other day I was chatting with one of my guy friends. He's really into prissy princesses, I think that's just a nice way to say bitches. What's it with guys and liking bitches, I think have to learn to become one. All my nice guy friends only seem to date bitches. I'm just starting to believe that nice girls and nice guys just can't wind up together. Maybe it's something something in the bichemistry. All my nice guy friends end up with bitches, and my nice girlfriends wind up with assholes. Maybe it's just what they attract, or maybe they just accept medicore. I refuse to, I've decided it's all or nothing baby.
Anyway, back to the point of this blog. We were talking about about Disney Princesses, and which one he would want to date. Don't look at me he started this conversation. He said Belle because she is smart, sassy but beatiful and elegant at the same time. I was actually surprised that was his selection, I would have had him pegged him as wanting a Cinderella. I can't say why he just comes off to me as the type of guy that would. Anyway then he asked which princess I thought I was. I of course said that I was not a princess but Tinkerbell. After all she's spunky, can fly, and none of the princesses can top pixy dust. And she knows exactly how to use her sexuality, she has poor Peter Pan wrapped around her pinky. My friend snorted and told me that I'm actually Prince Charming. I was baffled by this and of course asked him why. He told me I tend to go for men that need to be rescued and taken off on a white horse. He may have a point. I would be the one in a drag fairy tale. Pardon me while I go and slay some dragons and rescue Princes from evil stepmothers.
January 3, 2007
Dazed and Confused
Disclaimer: Title doesn't total reflect the post but the song came and I figured it related closely enough.
So last night I was watching an old Sex and the City rerun on late night tv (I know I need to find a better way to spend my time. It's probably worse than spending time reading Cosmo.) Anyway this particular episode got me thinking, I know when a Sex and the City gets me thinking it's usually not a very good sign. Anyway this time it's not so bad. On this particular episode they were having a debate on how many "great loves" you have during your life. The group seemed to lean towards an answer of two. I don't know if I necesarily agree or disagree with that.
What the episode really made me think about, is what really qualifies as a "great love". Is it anyone that you are involved in and love on some level. Hmmm i'm not sure about that. Was Jim automatically considered a "great love" because I married him. I don't necessarily think so, there are plenty of people that get married for reasons other than love, or at least true mind blowing, knees weakening, stomach churning romantic movie kinda love. To me that's what constitutes a "great love". And I don't think very many people actually marry a "great love" if that's how you define one. I know I didn't, to be honest I didn't realize how important something like that was. And I believe most people don't either. Most people think that money, differences in personality, yadda, yadda, yadda are the reason that most people get divorced. But that's not actually true. It's that they don't actually love each other enough, or great enough if you will to fight through the tough times. I know I didn't. If Jim was trully, what you would call a "great love" I never would have been able to walk away so easily. And I know the next I get married it will not be for anything less than a "great love". At least the next time I get married I'll know exactly what I want.
So last night I was watching an old Sex and the City rerun on late night tv (I know I need to find a better way to spend my time. It's probably worse than spending time reading Cosmo.) Anyway this particular episode got me thinking, I know when a Sex and the City gets me thinking it's usually not a very good sign. Anyway this time it's not so bad. On this particular episode they were having a debate on how many "great loves" you have during your life. The group seemed to lean towards an answer of two. I don't know if I necesarily agree or disagree with that.
What the episode really made me think about, is what really qualifies as a "great love". Is it anyone that you are involved in and love on some level. Hmmm i'm not sure about that. Was Jim automatically considered a "great love" because I married him. I don't necessarily think so, there are plenty of people that get married for reasons other than love, or at least true mind blowing, knees weakening, stomach churning romantic movie kinda love. To me that's what constitutes a "great love". And I don't think very many people actually marry a "great love" if that's how you define one. I know I didn't, to be honest I didn't realize how important something like that was. And I believe most people don't either. Most people think that money, differences in personality, yadda, yadda, yadda are the reason that most people get divorced. But that's not actually true. It's that they don't actually love each other enough, or great enough if you will to fight through the tough times. I know I didn't. If Jim was trully, what you would call a "great love" I never would have been able to walk away so easily. And I know the next I get married it will not be for anything less than a "great love". At least the next time I get married I'll know exactly what I want.
January 1, 2007
A Toast to New Beginnings
So it's a officially a new year. I don't think there are too many people out there that are much happier to start a new year than me. Last year around this time I said 2006 was gonna be a year of sweeping changes in my life. Well, this year is gonna be a year of new beginnings. Mark my words this is the year that something big and special is gonna happen this year. I've never been more sure of anything before in my life.
Today I went with a friend to see the Pursuit of Happyness. I've never really been one of those people into motivational movies, but those sweeping changes in my life, had a major impact on my life. And right now I'm a totally different person on January 1, 2007 than I was on January 1, 2006. Anyway I'm getting sidetracked, but let me tell you this movie impacted me in a way I couldn't imagine was possible. After seeing that movie I realize that you can't take anything for granted in life. And no matter if you trully want something you should never ever give up. And when you probably think you've lost, is actually when you are closest to winning. I guess sometimes when you are in the eye of a hurricane it's hard to believe there's a rainbow on the other side. There's nothing worth fighting for more than your own happiness, and if there's something out there that can trully make you happy at the end of the day you trully have to go for it.
Today I went with a friend to see the Pursuit of Happyness. I've never really been one of those people into motivational movies, but those sweeping changes in my life, had a major impact on my life. And right now I'm a totally different person on January 1, 2007 than I was on January 1, 2006. Anyway I'm getting sidetracked, but let me tell you this movie impacted me in a way I couldn't imagine was possible. After seeing that movie I realize that you can't take anything for granted in life. And no matter if you trully want something you should never ever give up. And when you probably think you've lost, is actually when you are closest to winning. I guess sometimes when you are in the eye of a hurricane it's hard to believe there's a rainbow on the other side. There's nothing worth fighting for more than your own happiness, and if there's something out there that can trully make you happy at the end of the day you trully have to go for it.
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