Late for the Sky - Don't ask it Just Came on and I Find the Title Funny

To be honest I'm not really sure how to start this blog. My head is foggy right now, maybe it's from the weather or maybe my head is just in a foggy state of my mind. Maybe the fogginess will explain this horrible color font I picked. I don't know about you, but this color is making my eyeballs hurt.

Anyway, yesterday I was chatting with a couple of friends, and decided to show them my ideal man list. (See my earlier blogs) It has been a work in progress for quite sometime and I was pretty proud of my work. Needless to say they weren't quite as impressed as me. Of course, I was a little confused as you probably can tell from my blogs I'm pretty happy in knowing what I want and refusing to settle for less. They of course informed that I wouldn't never find someone with all those qualities in one person and that I was going into to a relationship with expectations.

That bothered me at the time, but I couldn't quite figure out why. But after a good night's sleep and a little thought I realize why. How can you go into a relationship without expectations? Would you start a job, a business, buy a house, a new hobby without some sorta expectation as an end result? Why do we as a culture look at relationships differently? A loved one can't give you what you want if you don't know what you want from them yourself. As someone who went into a relationship without any expectations, well that's exactly why neither one of us got what we wanted in the end.

My list also led to a conversation about the number of items on my list and the possibility of finding one person with all those qualities. Of course, I said I realize that it would very difficult to find someone with everything, there's a reason it's called an "ideal" list. I of course stated the most important were the top 5: honest and sincere, faithful, trustworthy and loyal.

Which is of course is true, but I still couldn't argue because I really don't think there's anything really wacky and out there. They agreed but just felt there's no one that has all those qualities together. They responded that there's no one that's talkative, and upbeat and down to earth. I said that I am, and I got a snort in reply. Apparently I'm not down to earth. I decided to ignore that since it was best to agree to disagree on that one. Of course, I stupidly continued with this line of thought that I have a lot of the qualities on the list. This was of course because I wanted to convince them that it was possible for there to be someone. Let's just say that wasn't a good idea. The response I got from them was that I was trying change him and make him me. In another situation I probably would have laughed, because let's face here's this hypothetical dude that I'm already "changing". At this point I just gave up and ended the conversation. At that point all I left was a shoulder shrug and a humph.