Dazed and Confused

Disclaimer: Title doesn't total reflect the post but the song came and I figured it related closely enough.

So last night I was watching an old Sex and the City rerun on late night tv (I know I need to find a better way to spend my time. It's probably worse than spending time reading Cosmo.) Anyway this particular episode got me thinking, I know when a Sex and the City gets me thinking it's usually not a very good sign. Anyway this time it's not so bad. On this particular episode they were having a debate on how many "great loves" you have during your life. The group seemed to lean towards an answer of two. I don't know if I necesarily agree or disagree with that.

What the episode really made me think about, is what really qualifies as a "great love". Is it anyone that you are involved in and love on some level. Hmmm i'm not sure about that. Was Jim automatically considered a "great love" because I married him. I don't necessarily think so, there are plenty of people that get married for reasons other than love, or at least true mind blowing, knees weakening, stomach churning romantic movie kinda love. To me that's what constitutes a "great love". And I don't think very many people actually marry a "great love" if that's how you define one. I know I didn't, to be honest I didn't realize how important something like that was. And I believe most people don't either. Most people think that money, differences in personality, yadda, yadda, yadda are the reason that most people get divorced. But that's not actually true. It's that they don't actually love each other enough, or great enough if you will to fight through the tough times. I know I didn't. If Jim was trully, what you would call a "great love" I never would have been able to walk away so easily. And I know the next I get married it will not be for anything less than a "great love". At least the next time I get married I'll know exactly what I want.