Relationship Musings

Just today one of my female co-workers and I were talking about dating and relationships. To be honest it's something that comes up a lot. Hey, we are two single females sitting one cubicle apart. It's just something that's naturally gonna come up on a regular basis. And like most single women in New York we've both come across some indivuals that simply can't handle emotional commitment. What I mean by emotional commitment isn't just promising not to see other women. No it's something much deeper and broader than that. Emotional commitment is the ability to trully open up oneself. You know express one's deepest hopes and dreams, fears and emotions. If you ask me this breed has become more and more common. And where it used to be exclusive to men, it has in recent time become a cross-gender phenomon. I'm sure you want an example, probably no surprise my best example is of course Mr Big from Sex in the City. Let's face the man had some major emotional commitment issues. The man couldn't even commit to signing his name on a gift for a wedding. And to a certain extent I can understand where they are coming from. I don't think it's on purpose to be mean or vengeful. The older we get the more fear holds us back. Let's face it, most of have been burned and we have this fear about getting burned again. And rather than spend time trying to work on our fear, we jump into relationships without dealing with it. I'm glad that I did, and now I know that with the right person I would be able to emotional commit.